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Artist Column: Love Is Not A Fight
05-05-2008
by Warren Barfield
I make a living writing songs, but I do not write songs to make a living. I was writing long before anyone ever gave me a dollar for it. I was writing long before anyone was ever even listening. I write songs to put form to my thoughts and ideas. I’m working out my own salvation with fear and trembling, pen and paper. If you’ve listened to any of my music, then you have listened to my convictions, my confessions and my conclusions.
Here is a little insight into how some of those thoughts and ideas took shape to become my song “Love is Not a Fight.”
The word love as defined by our culture confuses me. I have a close friend who told me he was in love and was engaged to be married, then in a matter of days he broke off the engagement and was “in love” with someone else. I’m confused. Another friend found out his wife of seven years, the mother of his three children, had been having an affair with a co-worker for a couple of years. Everyday she threw “I love you” around while destroying everyone who she said it to. I’m confused. The stories go on and on and get closer and closer to home. Love is all we need? I personally think we could all use a manual to go along with it as well.
“Love is Not a Fight” is my conviction. I saw the abuse of the word love all around me, but I wasn’t one of the abusers, was I? One night during a fight with my wife I saw myself. “Love is Not a Fight” is my confession. The fight started over something very small and insignificant but quickly grew into a battle. In the middle of the fight I said, “I want out. You can have everything; I just want out!” What is love? That night my love was prideful, selfish. It flew off the handle listing all my wife’s wrongs; it failed.
By the grace of God, my wife and I survived that battle. “Love is Not a Fight” is my conclusion. There is a definition of Love that is very different than the one given to us by our culture. It is seen in the person of Christ. It is the opposite of all the things I was that night.
I learned through a fight that Love is not a battle. It isn’t angry. It isn’t a fight, but it is something worth fighting for. I want to be fighting for my wife, not fighting with her. Christ is the ultimate example of what it means to fight for love. He accepted blame that wasn’t His, and gave His life for the ones He loved. I want to follow His lead and exhaust myself for Love. I hope the song encourages everyone that hears it to fight for Love. I have received story after story of how the song is at work in people’s lives. I pray it continues to do its work.
Visit www.warrenbarfield.com to watch Warren's brand-new music video for "Love Is Not A Fight," and to pre-order Warren's new album, Worth Fighting For (releasing May 20, 2008).
(song lyrics to “Love Is Not A Fight”)
Love is not a place
To come and go as we please
It’s a house we enter in
And then commit to never leave
Lock the door behind you
Throw away the key
We’ll work it out together
Let it bring us to our knees
Love is a shelter in the raging storm
Love is peace in the middle of a war
If we try to leave, may God send His angels to guard the door
No, love is not a fight but it’s something worth fighting for
To some, love is a word
That they can fall into
But when they’re falling out
Keeping that word is hard to do
Love will come to save us
If we’ll only call
He will ask nothing of us
But demand we give our all
I will fight for you
Would you fight for me?
It’s worth fighting for
© 2008 New Spring, Inc. / Warren Barfield Music (ASCAP)
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